27 Comments Of Shared Experience Youre In A Good And Healthy Relationship.

Here are the the 27 comments of people who experienced good signs of right relationship. Read to the Need.

Devon says

And to answer your question, I love to be around people who are comfortable being who they are regardless of how different they are from others in the crowd; people who are effective communicators, who are positive and encouraging. In relationships, I look for integrity, loyalty, honesty, and consistency. These are the things the “right relationships” are made of. And they all take a little work for two willing people to create and nurture.

Here’s one of my favorite quotes from your older 1,000 Little Things book that I think best sums up my feelings about healthy relationships:

“All successful relationships require some work. They don’t just happen, or maintain themselves. They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts. Open communication and honesty is the key, always.”


Jill says

"Great post! I used to allow my parents to run my marriage! HUGE MISTAKE! It was a lesson for me to learn the hard way! I wish I would have read this YEARS ago! Needless to say, having OTHER people run your life and let them put their two cents in about YOUR life and marriage or relationship is a joke! Keep it simple stupid (KISS) I keep my marriage communication open and we are now 12 years going strong with two kiddos AND my parents have NOTHING to do with our marriage anymore! PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION! Thanks for all your posts! I love them so much! Keep them coming!!!"

Vincent says

"Only recently entered one after staying away from relationships for the longest time. Too early to tell now, but things are going well. Honeymoon stage and all that. But this post gives me some insight that we’re on the right track.

However, I will say that I’m not as much of the “perfect boyfriend” that I thought I’d be. Vain of me to even think I would be, I know, but I thought I had grown so much from my last relationship. Truth is, I’m still struggling with some of the same things I did last time, only this time around I catch myself and fix them before I take action. That’s growth to me and I’m happy with it for the most part.


Shanthy Thangavelu says


"I think this is good advice overall, and I appreciate it. My extra two cents though: In today’s world where a woman has to go out and work, what she needs from her husband is implicit trust especially when the husband knows that she is honest. If she is admired by other men, take it as a compliment. She’s working for the family. Respect her and don’t let your insecurities make it harder for her. More than love, my emphasis would be on respect in a relationship. A woman who is respected will do anything for her family."

Marianna says

"Women don’t mistrust a good man. Husband or not a husband yet. Trust his actions. If they are sincere, then keep trusting that man. Sometimes people can be tough around the edges with what they say, (sorry but usually men!) but their actions and tenderness in those actions speak so much more loudly. They may be gruff but their actions are sweet. Enjoy the persons sweet actions."

Greg says

"Honestly speaking, this article is an eye opener for me! My relationship with my girl was going through a rough patch, but after reading this I think I can change it and take the relationship in a positive direction. Our relationship is right, it just has some wrong tendencies."

Sandra Pawula says

"As you suggest, authenticity is really at the core of a good relationship in my eyes.. It can take time to learn how to be honest with yourself and then with your partner, but it’s so worth it when you do. Far better to be loved for who you truly are than for an image your project out of fear and insecurity."

Melissa Webster says

"The timing is unreal. I was just thinking about this exact same topic when I reconnected with some old friends today. Using this as a checklist for my relationships from now on.

I can’t even pick a favorite because they’re all so important. If I had to add something, I’d add a healthy dose of appreciation and gratitude. Being taken for granted or taken advantage of can damage an otherwise good relationship in long-lasting ways.

Also, knowing when to walk away and actually doing it. That’s something I struggle with. Or used to, I should say. Sometimes all the wanting to work it out in the world isn’t going to repair a broken relationship, or make you feel what is no longer there. Sometimes relationships really do simply run their course. But I guess maybe that falls in the ‘feeling trapped’ category?"

Karen Clendenin says

"I’d like to add that if you are in the right relationship you will know because you make yourself accessible to your significant other and they to you. Wanting to touch base often with each other is a great barometer for a relationship."

Tom says

"Should have found this article at least a few weeks earlier, maybe I’d have been able to realize my mistakes before it was too late. Just got broken up with on Valentine’s Day, because I violated several of the principles here.

Life’s hard when you lose a relationship that could’ve been saved if only she wasn’t the only one working on her problems. Maybe you can write a post about how to recognize when you’re mistaken about not making any mistakes – how to recognize and stop the holier-than-thou in me."


Marianna says


Tom, all is not lost yet. I think if you talk with that girl and add some valentines roses to that that all will not be lost at all. I think your lightbulb moment will strengthen and regain that relationship. Just showing that you realized and are willing to admit you need change and are willing to change may make that woman’s heart melt and tears of joy that she is so important that you are realizing this and willing to work at your relationship. There’s a lot of love coming through in your comments and I’m sure although she’s hurting that she loves you. Now Channel that love that you both have for each other. I think this is a major turning point for good in your relationship. Do not forget the roses. They show respect. Not weakness. Good luck and God Bless You Both and your relationship.


Margie Shynk says


"After 15 years with a great “coach” and dismantling a bad family/relationship belief I met a great guy and we were together for 10 yrs; then he passed away. Today, 4 years after losing Steve, I’ve been able to move forward with an open heart. Reading the above has been and continues to be the road map for true love. Dating has given me the opportunity to find those values and they have changed since I was 25… or even 32. Dignity, respect and being accountable for my own actions and words are paramount. I want to make everyday better for my sweet boyfriend and am proud to be his girlfriend… if we remember to honor ourselves first we have the love to give. I don’t know what the future holds but today there’s hope and faith that tomorrow will just as sweet."


Li-ling says


"Trust, honesty and always communicating – as you’ve so eloquently written in your post already. Most importantly, is to never have expectations of your partner to change – for to love them as they are and for all the joy they bring to your life, is at the core of what it takes a genuine relationship to work at it’s best. Gonna go pre-order out your new book now too. Congrats!"


Michelle Angel says


"I think that my experience has shown that you are in the right relationship when you can be at one with yourself. Fully accepting of who you really are deep down and knowing that your partner would never judge you for such and love you despite your imperfections all while laughing along the way and having fun. I think sometimes we get hung up in the serious stuff and forget to make time to enjoy the fun things in life. Simple things like snuggling with your dogs in the morning or taking a long walk at night just enjoying togetherness. Sleeping in on a weekend and holding that person that you love in your arms and thinking that there is nowhere else you would rather be than in their arms.

Love, Faithfulness, Stability, togetherness, partnership, and above all just being. I think that to be in the right relationship you must have that balance of trust which is something that can only be earned over time and that it is also built on truth not lies and deceit.

When you are in the right relationship you want to give of yourself fully expecting nothing but love in return. You do things for the other person because you feel a love and passion for that person in which you would go to the ends of the earth to support them, build them, guide them when they need it, and most of all be a team. Of course I have always been a firm believer that no relationship is possible without GOD. Every relationship will have its ups and downs and struggles and without a solid faith in God the struggles can break you.

In the end I think it is about having that person by your side in your last moments of life and looking back knowing that together you accomplished dreams, hopes, and fears that you never would have been able to on your own and yet you did with your best friend by your side…

I always go back to my ALL TIME favorite Marc and Angel post (below and worth EVERYONE reading again and again!!) In this post there were two things that have always stuck with me…..And I tend to remind myself of them frequently: Click here to read the post 

“Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to.”

“If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it.  Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.”

Here is the link – 9 Good signs you are in the right relationship. 


Diedra says


One thing I have noticed is that when starting a relationship it is always best to be upfront about what you want and are expecting within reason. Another thing is that men seem to think that when a woman says no to something that a challenge has been created. When I say no that is what I mean. There isn’t a yes in there anywhere. Another thing is that a man should never expect nor demand kissing or holding hands during the first through the third date. Especially the first one. Show some respect for the person you are beginning to see. Not all of us are easy.

Stephanie says


#1 “No Games are Being Played” And If they cheat at Monopoly or are a poor sport with any boardgame, this says a lot about how they handle the ups and downs of life! Seriously, I am exploring little signs that depict good character in my own life. This was an excellent list and very timely for this Valentine’s Day, of course. But the mind game playing has ruined many a relationship, that’s for sure. Love this blog… I always share it on my Facebook.


Dave Nordella says

Be real.
Be clear.
Be fearless.
Be there with her/him.
Give love.
Show respect.


Betsy says



After 36 years of being married, and a widow for 2 1/2 years, I am ready to be with someone. I don’t want to be alone anymore, and I know your different posts say that being alone is ok, but I feel the need to be with someone. I want to share things, do things, live again. I have so much love still to give, and worry that I will never find that again. I don’t want to compare, I want to start over. My own insecurities are holding me back.


jo allebach says


Nearly 20 years into this relationship is amazing because I went through 4 marriages that were obviously not right. I am not saying they were bad people but they certainly weren’t right for me.

I appreciate my significant other and he in turn appreciates me. There is love and closeness but not in a suffocation way. As a matter of fact we were just discussing some of this the other day and here it comes up in your blog. It just makes me more sure that I am on the right path with the right partner. Thank you.


CJ says


Excellent points. Excited about 1000 Little Habits!
https://rourhealthcare.blogspot.com/2022/07/9-good-signs-youre-in-right-relationship.html

Above all else, I think 2 things are needed to know the relationship is right.

1. You can share a relationship of authenticity.

2. You don’t have to compromise on any major values.

It seems like an impossible set of standards for many but with 7+ billion people, your person is out there if you look.

Lisa Whitlock says


This is a great article Angel, especially when compared with other love-related writings that cruise the internet around Valentine’s Day.

In relationships, we tend to forget about some things and we do so more often than we should. These pieces of advice are spot on, taking your partner for granted especially hits home for me. Even when I’m not in a relationship or willing to date, I find these kinds of articles very useful for introspection. This was a great read, please keep on writing!

Nikkip says


If I could add one more I guess mostly for married couples. The bucks gotta stop somewhere. My husband and I would fight a lot when we were first married because I was raised in a women’s lib atmosphere. He wanted his way and, I wanted mine! When I bacame a Christian I read about God make the man the head of the household unless he’s unable or unqualified such as drugs or injury in a way that hinders his mental ability. I stopped having to have my way and, let him have the last say, it was hard; very hard. Something amazing happened though, we stopped fighting. Now don’t get me wrong every now and, then we fuss but, hardly ever. He respects me and I him. We work together and, it’s wonderful, peaceful and, most of all loving.

Jane says


For me, if the relationship with the person helps me grow and shine, it is the right relationship. I have chosen to surround myself with people that build me up and help me reach my full potential.

I had fallen deep in love with a boy, soon to find out his mindset is far from what I want to surround myself with. It was extremely hard but I had to set a boundary to take care of myself and say goodbye. I was so emotionally attached to him, but my heart was telling me that I needed to get away from him.
I chose to listen to my heart.

Dee says



I think that every relationship has an expiration date. Just like a credit card or a magazine subscription, if you want to keep getting the rewards then you have to renew your subscription. You have to continually renew your relationships to reap the benefits of the rewards.

Julie Clayville says


This was a wonderful column. I agree with all the points. After two failed marriages, I now have been with the most wonderful man for me and here is another point I’d add to your list: You are with the right partner when you already know that you want to truly be with them in sickness and in health and would consider it a sacred priviledge to care for them should they ever come to failing health. I watched my father care for my very ill and infirm mother for a decade – with complete love and tenderness and NOW I understand how he was so able and joyful to do this – he loved her completely and was happy to care for her in all her suffering and dependance.



CJP says:


I initially clicked on this link to see if my relationship ticked any of the boxes. I have been married for 25 years and after just completing a horrendous year of surgery, chemo and radiotherapy for breast cancer my Husband announced a month ago that he was leaving me. This has come as a complete shock as I had no idea it was coming. I love him and I am in love with him still and I am truly heartbroken and in shock.

Of all the comments on here, the 2 that have given me a light bulb moment are just above mine – Dee’s analogy of the credit card expiration date and Julie Clayville’s sickness and health post. Firstly, Dee I could hug you. You have made the penny drop for me. Only one of us wants to renew our relationship subscription and it will only work if we both did. I can’t make him or force him to want me and I am going to stop beating myself up about it. The old me would be tempted to say ” your loss Mr” and I know that one day when I’m stronger the new me will be saying that. Thank you Dee. You have no idea how you have changed my day and my way of thinking.

Secondly, Julies post has made me realize that whilst my husband was amazing during my breast cancer and treatment and I couldn’t fault the care and love he gave me, if he truly loved me then he would still be here at the end. In sickness and in health.

Thank you all for your honest posts and I wish you all love and true happiness X

Jo says: 

May God surround you with loving care and comfort. You have been through so much. Be kind with the things you say to yourself, and above all, trust that you are forever cherished and loved beyond anything or anyone you have known. What courage you have! Humble thanks for sharing your journey, which is NOT over.

Thanks for reading.

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